tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419426396801469265.post7041317747263267379..comments2023-06-07T05:33:58.172-07:00Comments on Alison Jutzi Talks Amongst Herself: I Am Not Pregnant.Alison Jutzihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08963087117809865574noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419426396801469265.post-4939327653021648592011-11-16T18:47:29.332-08:002011-11-16T18:47:29.332-08:00This is the best. xoThis is the best. xoAlison Jutzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08963087117809865574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419426396801469265.post-62231913003975495312011-11-16T15:26:59.537-08:002011-11-16T15:26:59.537-08:00Take II. I can't remember all I wrote the firs...Take II. I can't remember all I wrote the first attempt but I'm sure it was wittier. Ok, it's not because you aren't a Mom, because when you are a Mom (or if, no pressure!) it turns out you're the same person you were before, and as you are pragmatic and positive already, you won't become like this. Plus, when you really really want a baby, even though you do get tired and miss out on some social events, having a baby is better than anything, even when you are tired and missing a party all your friends are at. <br /><br />Sometimes I think these are things people just say because that's what they think they should say at the time, like it's the right response to a conversational prompt. Like when you are near your due date and so ready to have the baby, and people tell you to cherish those last few days without the baby and you're like, No, I'm uncomfortable and tired of worrying about labour and want to meet this kicking person already and you saying that IS NOT HELPFUL, it just makes me feel like you are not hearing me. And I WILL blame pregnancy hormones for snapping at you, dumb ass. <br /><br />What I love most of all is when people tell you something is going to be really hard, and then it isn't so hard and you report this, and the person then can't wait to tell you how hard the next thing is going to be. Like all the people who told me flying with a 3 month old would be a nightmare. And then it was easy, less than 10 minutes of crying in each 8 hour flight. When I've said how it wasn't so bad really, so many people have been desperately eager to tell me that yeah, just wait until he's crawling or wants to move around, or isn't breastfeeding, or is 2, because then it will be really hard. And I just think, come on people, can't we enjoy right now and revel in the moments that are easier than we expected, because there will be plenty of hard moments, which won't be any easier even if everyone you know has commented or warned you about.<br /><br />This is what I want to talk about instead: how any bad moments are far outweighed by great, amazing, fantastic moments. How your baby will be your favorite person who you will do anything for and not resent for the difficult and gross things they put you through. How all the things you miss out on or miss are displaced by things you cannot imagine your life without now, that you are so much richer for, which are better and more rewarding than anything you ever had or did ever before, that you wouldn't trade for anything. Which is not to say it isn't hard sometimes, just that overall, it is so much better. Parents don't really want their old lives before-baby back, they just want moments of it. <br /><br />Wow, this is definitely longer than the first time I commented. I hope this one doesn't get lost or else I'm going to write a novel next time! xxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com