What I Have Learned About Marriage in 7 Months

And now, the much-anticipated second post in my What I Have Learned About Marriage collection. You can read the first post here.

Age of marriage: (almost) 7 months

• They say that the first year of marriage is the hardest, but I cannot see how the year after all the wedding planning is done could possibly be difficult. Not spending several paralyzing hours a week trying to pick out a china pattern at the Bay has been great for our relationship;
• Saying "husband" and "wife" is fun! For the first few months it sounded almost silly, but now I'm used to it and I like it;
• I haven't had as many people ask me when I'm going to have children as I thought I would;
  
• Sometimes when you're married, people call you Mrs. Sullivan and it makes you giggle;
• Sometimes when you're married, people call your husband Mr. Jutzi and that makes you guffaw;
• That joint bank account we started is fabulous! I've bought more clothes with that money...I'M JOKING! IT'S A JOKE!
• Those moments where we're alone and acting silly together are precious.

My Pop Choir

I am very pleased to announce that I will be joining the My Pop Choir team in the new year when I start conducting a choir at their brand new Bloor West location. My Pop Choir is for people who want to sing because it feels good. There are no auditions, and no one ever has to sing a solo. It is just a group of people getting together for an hour and a half each week, singing in harmony and having a good time.

Check out the My Pop Choir website for more information!

Overheard at a commercial audition.

This post could also be entitled, "Conversations between actors that seem interesting when you're involved in them, but are definitely tedious and boring when you're not." Here are snippets of conversations I overheard at that commercial audition I had for that cleaning product on Friday. They are typical of the banter that occurs when two actor friends run into each other:

Have you been going out for a lot of film and t.v.?

No, just commercials lately. It's so hard to get your foot in the door.

I knowwww. I didn't go to one audition all summer. ALL summer. And I haven't booked anything in a year.

Oh, that's too bad. I've had a really hard time being seen too. This week I shot my first commercial in a year.

That's great!

Yeah, it's good. But I wish I could just get my foot in the door for some film and t.v. auditions.

Tell me about it.

So I ran into *casting director* and she told me she was sorry for not calling me in. She remembers me because I send her postcards every few months. So when I saw her at *industry event* and she apologized for not bringing me in, I thought maybe she'd call me in for something soon, but she hasn't and that was two months ago, so.

Well, at least she knows who you are. You never know when the perfect role will come up.

That's true. I'm thinking of asking her if I can come in and observe a casting session. I know she has an assistant, but.

That's a good idea.

Did I hear you say you got married?

Yes!

That's so exciting! When was the wedding?

Just this past July, it was really great. A lot of work though.

That's so nice. Yeah, it is a lot of work. When I got married, we booked the wedding on a Sunday night because we knew we'd be free on a Sunday night if either of us got a gig, and of course both of us were working when the wedding came, so we had to do the rehearsal in between a matinee and evening performance. It was so crazy. But you have to do it that way, because the alternative is to turn down work, y'know?

I haven't worked in three years, so it wasn't really an issue.

*awkward laughter*

I am beautiful, no matter what you say.

My Drake General Store spot is out, and I've never looked better.

I Am Not Pregnant.

Just wanna get that out there. Because this post is going to be about pregnancy, and I don't want everyone to get all excited like when I posted a link to this hilarious Hairpin article about delivering a baby, and subsequently caused a bit of a stir.

I want to talk about those people who comment on Facebook statuses of pregnant women, warning them how crappy their life is about to get. You know the kind. And if you don't, here are some examples:

Preggers: "I had the best sleep last night. 9 hours!"

Negative Nelly: "Enjoy your sleep now because you won't be getting any when the baby comes lol!"

Preggers: "What a wonderful first anniversary with the love of my life: Steak and ice cream, and a lovely moonlit stroll on the beach...it really doesn't get better than this."

Debbie Downer: "Don't get used to it, once the baby comes you won't get any alone time lol!"

Preggers: "Loved having a girls' night last night. Thanks to Stace and Rachel for showing me a good time!"

Cynical Cynthia: "Did you tell them you won't ever be able to see them again once the baby comes? I haven't been out since Gabe was born and that was two years ago! lol! kill me."

I don't get it. And I don't think it's because I'm not a mom. My close friends who are moms don't make comments like those above, and I think it's because they know that:

1) pregnant women who have any sort of grasp of reality already know they're going to be busy and tired when the baby comes;

2) there is no way to store up sleep in the body, so "enjoying your sleep now" isn't going to do much to alleviate the fatigue that comes with round-the-clock feedings; and

3) the acronym "lol" needs to die a quick death, and soon.

Maybe I'll change my tune when I become a mom. Maybe when I post comments that might sound negative to some on my pregnant friends' walls, my pregnant friends will understand that while I may be saying something that sounds vaguely like, "Your life is going to suck soon!" they'll know that what I really mean is, "Having young kids can be hard, but I'm going through it too and I'm here to help!" Maybe that will happen. But I'll be damned if I'm going to start laughing out loud about it.